We all know that the powers that be want to control women. Right? That’s what feminism is all about. Call it the system, the patriarchy, “the man,” the ruling class, the state, whatever you want, we all agree that women are pretty systematically fucked over. At least everyone reasonable does. If you don’t even believe women’s oppression is real, good damn day and please DO let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.
But here’s something feminists have been floundering on for decades: why? What’s the point of controlling women? Is it for sex? Is it so they only have your babies? Is it because men are by nature abusive and controlling? Is it because they’re generally physically larger and more dominant? Is it…is it lizard people?
Here’s my theory. Well, not my theory. Here’s a theory put together by a ton of people smarter than me and which I think makes the most sense.
*Handful of Warnings*
1. Possible triggers–I talk a bit about abuse.
2. NSFW, probably.
I, being the perv that I am, started thinking about this, like, WAY too young. But I really got opinionated about it in the wake of the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon, as I wrote about previously on my old site Jill of all Trades. To the point where I came out publicly as a kink just so I could talk plainly about how much bullshit it was.
Growing up in the 90s as a young girl looking for her strength was…tricky. Things were improving, of course, but female heroes were few and far between, and often the best ones were found in programs and movies that my sheltering parents kept me from anyway (shoutout to Xena and Buffy, I never knew ye).
Have you been hearing the term “intersectional feminism” lately and been like…shit, am I a bad feminist for not knowing what that is?
You might be a bad feminist (I don’t know you), but if so it’s not because you don’t know what intersectional feminism is. The name itself is hardly explanatory, and picking up its meaning from the context of various Twitter conversations is not exactly helpful either.
Frankly picking up the meaning of anything from the context of various Twitter conversations is not something I recommend.
So here I am, your favorite Explainer of Things, to explain this thing to you.